The trip to the High School for Bunnie’s schedule went well. She saw a friend and felt much better. I won’t say she relaxed, but she did feel much better. When I came home from work, she was even able to chat about it a little. Big improvement. Then it happened.
She and her brother turned on the tele to watch a re-run of the George Lopez Show. The episode was about his 14 year old daughter being bullied in her first year of High School by mean girls and having scary encounters with boys following her into the girl’s bathroom. Awesome. It took me about an hour to talk her down.
Hopefully, when the resources staff returns, I can set up an appointment for Bunnie to go up there to talk with them about her fears and do a practice run or two for finding her classrooms. This transition is without a doubt ten times worse than Junior High, and I thought that was a beast. Ugh.
Personally, I’m girding my loins for dealing with the same freaking counselor who dropped the ball for her brother. To say she’s out of touch is an understatement. At least this time around, I know how to contact the teachers and resource people myself rather than wasting time going to her.
And! Lest ye think that I am a hovering mother, I want you to know that I am very proud of myself. Bear sent me a text from college saying he was having some trouble. I typed back “Do you want me to come up there?”
Then I erased my reply and just wrote “HUGS”.
Man, it is hard to back off, especially when I’m still a helicopter parent at heart.
7 responses so far ↓
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witchypoo
// Aug 14, 2009 at 9:52 pm
I used to refer to the “educators” I had to deal with as “woodpiles” because there was as much communication with them as you would get with a woodpile. I’m feeling ya.
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Pinkpeaks
// Aug 16, 2009 at 12:53 am
Hover on, helicopter mom. Good luck. Call if you need to blow off steam.
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Tutugirl
// Aug 16, 2009 at 10:07 am
One thing that helped me when I started at a new school was reminding myself that my entire grade would be confused, lost and trying to figure out the ropes of the school. Its not a cure-all for first day fears, but its probably worth repeating to her a few times.
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Green Girl in Wisconsin
// Aug 17, 2009 at 8:49 am
I started high school indoctrinated by my mother–who had me convinced I’d be shoved into a locker and force-fed drugs. Imagine my surprise when the only peer pressure I experienced was to cut class my junior year and have lunch off campus! Why do we stress these poor kids so much? Growing up is hard enough without the fantastic stories!
Good for you–texting “Hugs!”
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Ree
// Aug 21, 2009 at 7:29 pm
Yea? Bear is doing okay? We’re going to do a walkabout tomorrow as it’s Move In Day minus 14 as of tomorrow.
Hold me!
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Sadge
// Aug 25, 2009 at 1:19 am
Our high school has a freshman orientation day before school starts, so they can meet classmates and learn their way around, and then older student Link Crew leaders that do activities throughout the year, that also act as friends and mentors.
http://carsonhigh.com/carsonhi/eca/linkcrew/about.html
http://www.boomerangproject.com/link
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prashant
// Nov 9, 2009 at 8:09 am
I started at a new school was reminding myself that my entire grade would be confused, lost and trying to figure out the ropes of the school Work from home India
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